Pride Month 2025 - My Journey

Hi Divergents,

Each June marks the passage of time in a different way than it used to. This June marks my third pride month in a same-sex relationship.

I've made a point to attend the Los Angeles parade the three years prior, but this year we were traveling and missed the pride parade.

I'm not sure what that'll mean. I think it'll be great to find some alternative pride celebrations, but I'm not very good at researching events (it's a wonder I get to anything at all, but my neurospicy self has figured out work arounds that I didn't even know were work arounds).

If you have any suggestions in the L.A. area, let me know! Time is ticking. (Oops it’s July, but pride hasn’t stopped!)

The rainbow + trans flag still is hung in the threshold to the house at the front door, but something more eventful needs to happen. Without the parade ritual, I'm a little lost for what to do.

Perhaps this post is just what I need - a pause to consider what pride month means to me and to live as fully into it as I can.

The passage of time has brought less of a vigilant awareness of my queerness. I find myself not explicitly seeking out queer community. It's been important to me to live and show that my sexuality is just an expansion of love and love is available everywhere.

I suppose there's some of me that afraid of such spaces too. I get scared of new routines and spaces. The unknown messes with my control.

My climbing gym had a pride night and my partner and I happened to be there just prior to the beginning and with a slight overlap in time. I didn't feel drawn to stay. We were keen to keep with our routine, get home and get to bed early.

I think that's it. Queer life in so many ways is just life. I want to bridge into the normalness. I don't know if it's my decades as a heterosexual that makes me less needy for it or if it's the fear.

I think I can't knock it until I've tried it. I've been dismissive of my need for such groups, out of fear that I won't be gay enough, or it will be too gay! (This is all making me smile and laugh inside).

I'd love to find like a gay picnic group, artists, or gardeners group - again suggestions welcome!

Happy pride month! Let's have each other's back. We're better together.

As always love wins! And love is love.

(Oh, before I go…my new I.L.Y. line just so happens to be in rainbow pride colors, if you look closely!)

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Rooting for you

-Elle Sequoia Brave

1. What is your favorite pride experience?

2. What are actions you can take to be more proud of who you are?

3. What are ways you can make spaces safer for people to proudly be themselves?

4. What pride experience do you want to share?